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How to Use Anal Dildos – A Beginners Guide

By April 14th, 2025Dildos10 min read

How to Use Anal Dildos

So, you’re looking for info on how to use anal dildos. Like me, I’m always up to trying something new.

Before getting started, let’s look at what you should consider.

Whether you’re new to anal sex or just looking to expand your experiences, for many who’ve tried, they don’t regret it!

Let’s look at choosing the right anal toy, including anal dildos, and how to get comfortable using them.

An Introduction to Anal Play

Anal play is a popular and exciting way to explore new ways to enhance your solo or partner play.

Anal sex toys, such as anal dildos, are designed to provide a safe and pleasurable experience. They just feel good!

Whether you’re a beginner or an experienced user, it’s important to understand the basics of anal play and how to use anal dildos effectively.

In this article, we’ll introduce you to anal play and what you can expect.

One thing for certain is that for many, it’s the sex toy that rocks their world!

Finding Anal Orgasm by Using the Right Anal Dildo

The selection of anal dildos is huge, but not all of them are! As far as size goes, you’ll find options ranging from small anal dildos for beginners (this is where you should start) to giant anal dildos for folks more experienced (I’m thinking the same thing…How?).

You might consider butt plugs as a great beginner-friendly option, offering various sizes and functionalities to enhance your anal play experience.

It starts with finding what works for you. If you’re new to backdoor play, a small anal dildo is the best way to ease into it so you can become more comfortable over time.

Eventually, you’ll work your way up to larger anal dildos or even the huge anal dildos that you can’t believe they even make! Trust me, there’s a backdoor player for every size.

Choosing the Right Material for Your Anal Dildo

It’s also important to know what anal dildos are made of. You want something comfortable and safe for your use!

Anal dildos are typically made from materials like silicone, glass, and stainless steel. Silicone is popular because it’s body-safe, durable, and easy to clean.

However, suppose you’re looking for something that provides a different sensation. In that case, glass dildos offer a firmer feel and are shaped to target sensitive areas such as the prostate in men, enhancing sexual pleasure through prostate stimulation.

Stainless steel is another option with the added benefit of warming or cooling the dildo for some temperature stimulation during anal play.

Whatever you choose, make sure the material used is non-porous and phthalate-free for safe, worry-free solo or partner play.

Also, remember to always use a good lubricant rated safe for use with your anal dildo material, and that’s easy to clean up to have the best experience.

Don’t forget features like a flared base for safety (you don’t want to lose it up there) and maybe even some texture or vibration for added stimulation.

Anal Dildo Safety and Preparation

Before jumping into anal play, it’s important to take the necessary safety precautions and prepare yourself and your partner.

Here are some tips to keep in mind:

  • Choose a high-quality anal dildo made from body-safe materials, such as silicone or glass.
  • Use a flared base dildo to prevent it from getting lost inside your body.
  • Use plenty of lube to reduce friction and discomfort. Listen to your body!
  • Talk to your partner to make sure they’re comfortable and feeling pleasure.
  • Clean your anal dildo before and after every use to prevent bacterial growth and infection. I can’t mention this enough, as you will see.

The Importance of Hygiene When Using Anal Dildos

Congrats! You’ve picked out your new anal dildo, and you’re ready to go. So, what’s next?

Preparation!

The first thing is to practice good hygiene. This habit is absolutely necessary when it comes to using anal sex toys, or any sex toy for that matter. And trust me, you want anything that penetrates your body to be clean and sterile!

As we mentioned before, keeping your anal sex toys clean, you will prevent any unpleasant infections or irritations. Either of these will spoil it for you!

Also, the anus can be a bacteria hotspot, making it even more important to clean your anal sex toys before and after every use.

Doing this not only protects your health and safety but also keeps your anal dildo in good condition.

Plus, let’s be honest: nobody wants to break out any sex toy that’s seen better days.

How Do You Clean Your Anal Dildo

The best way to maintain cleanliness is to start by using warm water, a good antibacterial soap, or a recommended toy cleaner, and allowing the toys to air dry.

However, if you have any doubts, always check to see what your specific anal dildo manufacturer recommends for keeping your toy clean.

So, again always take the time to properly clean your anal dildo before and after use to keep it safe and enjoyable!

What Type of Lube Should I Use with My Anal Dildo?

Alright, let’s talk lube! Choosing the right lubricant is key to making your experience smooth and enjoyable.

First, you’ll want to choose a lubricant that’s safe to use with your anal dildo’s material. Most manufacturers will provide a recommendation.

However, if they don’t, water-based lubricants are usually a safe bet for use with most sex toys and are easy to clean up.

Also, water-based lubricants might need to be reapplied during longer play sessions.

A silicone-based lube is more durable if you’re looking for something longer-lasting. Just make sure it’s compatible with your anal dildo, especially if it’s made from silicone.

If you’re not sure, patch-test a small amount first, as some silicone lubes can degrade silicone sex toys.

And remember, anal play doesn’t have the natural lubrication like other types of intimacy, so don’t skimp on the amount you use. The more lube, the better!

The First Step: Getting Comfortable

Now, onto the fun part—using your anal dildo!

If you’re just getting started, begin with a bit of foreplay. Foreplay isn’t just for fun; it helps your body relax and prepare for new stimulations.

Before going straight for the anal dildo, you might want to loosen things up with a finger first or even a small butt plug, moving in gentle circles to get your muscles to relax.

Be patient and take your time… It’s worth it!

Once you’re feeling comfortable, start inserting your anal dildo slowly and in stages as needed. Always listen to your body; if it doesn’t feel right, take a pause.

The whole reason is for anal play to be pleasurable. Add more lube if needed, and know there is no rush, so go at your own pace.

Get the Most from Using Anal Dildos

Inserting and using anal dildos requires some technique and patience.

Here are some things to consider:

  • Use a suction cup base to provide stability and support during use.
  • Try different sizes and positions to find what works best for you.
  • Use a harness-compatible dildo for strap-on play.
  • Don’t forget to stimulate the prostate for added pleasure. Find that P-spot.

Exploring Sensations: It’s All in the Moves

Once comfortable, it’s time to try some different movements to find what feels best for you.

Try moving the dildo in different patterns, such as small circles or gentle thrusts. Also, some people find it deeply stimulating just by inserting it all the way.

If you bought a dildo that vibrates, “go ahead and press the button!” to discover what hits the right spot for you.

Now we haven’t mentioned “who” would get the most out of an anal dildo, but for men, anal dildos are often used to stimulate the prostate. The prostate is the male equivalent of a woman’s G-spot.

Often referred to as the P-spot, this can lead to intensely pleasurable sensations when targeting correctly, just like a g-spot.

Tips and Tricks: Enhancing the Experience

Here are a few tips to help you choose a brand and make the most of your backdoor play.

Doc Johnson, Lovehoney and Lifelike Lover are high-quality brands to consider. They offer anal sex toys from a basic butt plug on up to the anal dildos we’re talking abut here.

Also, avoid numbing creams. While these may help you last longer in the front door. They should never be used in the back door.

Why?

Because the anus is full of very sensitive nerve endings, and you want to be sure you feel absolutely everything that’s going on back there.

If you’re being overly aggressive, your body will tell you through discomfort, which is your clue to slow down before you do any damage.

Again, I can’t stress this enough, cleanliness is next to godliness when it comes to anal play, so keep those anal toys sparkling clean.

Lastly, don’t get too fixated on achieving an anal orgasm. It doesn’t happen for everyone, and sometimes the journey is as rewarding as the destination.

Final Thoughts on How to Use Anal Dildos

Anal play is a fun and exciting way to enhance your sex life and there is a sex toy for that!

However, anal play might not be for everyone, but if you’re curious and ready to explore, there’s a whole new pleasure awaiting.

You’ll never know unless you try! There are so many different types of dildos, so why wait?

Get that first anal dildo and unlock a world of new sensations and pleasures.

William Bell

William Bell is a full-time blogger and our resident expert on safe sex products and overall sexual wellness. His articles are based on countless hours of online research, user feedback, and product review regarding all aspects of contraceptives and adult sexual aids to help consumers make an informed choice regarding the sexual wellness products they purchase.